Pluto-Lilith Aspects in Synastry
“Love is both a problem and a solution.”
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Disclaimer: This article represents a few interpretations among countless interpretations of synastry. I have 900+ synastry aspects in total, so you should check your whole synastry chart instead of one aspect within it.
Pluto Conjunct Lilith Synastry
With Pluto conjunct Lilith synastry, there can be complex psychological games. Pluto may rather fool Lilith than let Lilith fool them. Lilith may use sex as a tool to manipulate Pluto’s weakness.
Pluto tends to be possessive out of insecurity. Lilith may intentionally provoke Pluto’s jealousy as a way to feel desirable.
Pluto may want total control in the relationship, but Lilith craves autonomy. Pluto may use violent methods to overpower Lilith’s strong will, yet Lilith may rebel. Anger can be destructive in this bond.
This aspect teaches you both to realize that love isn’t about being right; it’s about being kind, even when you’re hurt. Speak when you are angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.1
Pluto Sextile Lilith Synastry
With Pluto sextile Lilith synastry, Pluto can help Lilith release old guilt and self-judgment about their sexuality. Pluto can be curious about Lilith’s forgotten memories. Pluto empowers Lilith to heal their sexual hurts through a complete self-transformation.
Lilith can free Pluto from an excessive need for control. Lilith can help Pluto realize that the river cannot be forced upstream; the bird does not force the wind but trusts it to carry them to new horizons; the flower does not force the rain but blooms when it arrives. Lilith can teach Pluto that love cannot be forced; it must come naturally.
Pluto Square Lilith Synastry
With Pluto square Lilith synastry, Pluto can be suspicious of Lilith’s secrets. Pluto can be so insecure that they seek absolute control over Lilith’s freedom.
But Lilith is the will that doesn’t submit. Lilith may rebel against Pluto, even when Pluto has good intentions.
Mind games can poison the trust. Lilith may sometimes deliberately trigger Pluto’s jealousy, while Pluto may embarrass Lilith to gain the upper hand.
This relationship requires you both to seek not to win but to learn from every conflict. Ask, “What is this argument trying to teach me about myself?”
Pluto Trine Lilith Synastry
With Pluto trine Lilith synastry, Pluto can motivate Lilith’s will to transform to experience complete freedom. True freedom is like a caged bird; the bird is free to sing in whatever situation it is in. Freedom is inner, not outer. Pluto empowers Lilith to dive deep into their darkness to remove the stuckness they’ve created themselves.
In turn, Lilith can inspire Pluto to walk their path despite people’s criticism. Lilith can strengthen Pluto’s determination to be reborn in places where they died. The mountain Pluto once feared to climb has not grown smaller; Pluto has grown larger.
Like a key turning a rusty lock, Lilith encourages Pluto to develop self-confidence where there was self-blame. Like a blacksmith tempers metal with heat, Pluto teaches Lilith that great pressure builds great resilience.
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Pluto Opposite Lilith Synastry
With Pluto opposite Lilith synastry, Pluto can become a spiritual trainer for Lilith, strengthening Lilith’s courage to face life’s challenges. Pluto inspires Lilith to see pain as winter: “this too shall pass”, as long as Lilith’s eyes are focused on the spring, the rebirth from life’s harshest moments.
Lilith can awaken Pluto’s curiosity about the mystical aspects of existence. Lilith empowers Pluto to cherish what is most important in their life, which is life itself.
Where Pluto feels limited, that is death. Lilith motivates Pluto to seek true freedom, which is not the absence of external constraints but the mastery over inner restrictions.
- Quote from Laurence J. Peter ↩︎